Thursday, November 14, 2013
I'm His Wife, Not His Mother
There are a number of traffic lights in the city in which we live that have cameras set up to catch people who run red lights. We have one right near our home. In the mail today we received a notification with photos of our truck caught on camera. We are currently a one vehicle home and my husband has it most of the time, so we are fairly certain he was the one driving. (Trust me, I checked.)
I could have been hopping mad, berating him like a small child because this violation takes money away that we can't afford to part with. But instead I chose to partner with him to determine if it would be better to dispute or pay this violation. No conflicts, arguments, hissy-fits or temper tantrums. He is a grown man and I am his wife, therefore I am his partner and suitable help meet and must conduct myself accordingly.
Are you trying to mother your husband or partner with him? How successful is your approach?