Thursday, November 14, 2013

I'm His Wife, Not His Mother


I sometimes hear divorced men talk about how mean or manipulative their ex-wife was whenever he did something for which she didn't approve.  My husband has said it about his ex-wife and a friend has said it about his.  I can't help but wonder if women like these think their husbands are children who need to be disciplined.  It most definitely shows a complete lack of respect for her husband.

There are a number of traffic lights in the city in which we live that have cameras set up to catch people who run red lights.  We have one right near our home.  In the mail today we received a notification with photos of our truck caught on camera.  We are currently a one vehicle home and my husband has it most of the time, so we are fairly certain he was the one driving.  (Trust me, I checked.)

I could have been hopping mad, berating him like a small child because this violation takes money away that we can't afford to part with.  But instead I chose to partner with him to determine if it would be better to dispute or pay this violation.  No conflicts, arguments, hissy-fits or temper tantrums.  He is a grown man and I am his wife, therefore I am his partner and suitable help meet and must conduct myself accordingly.

Are you trying to mother your husband or partner with him?  How successful is your approach?

Ephesians 5:32-33
32 This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church. 33 However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.